I kind of had to laugh at the conflicting information in your post. Don't be offended, it isn't a challenge and I absolutely understand the points you are making.There isn't. If a family wants to attend a a parochial school that offers tuition assistance, they can apply to receive tuition assistance. Does not matter if they are in activities or not.
Contrary to the popular belief, parochial schools outside of Lincoln and Omaha aren't picking and choosing what kids come to their school. If that said 7-12 parochial school has elementary feeder schools, most of the kids who are in high school went to Catholic grade school. Catholic schools aren't turning away kids. They will take any student who can afford tuition and has a good standing from their previous school if they are a transfer.
I don't know anything about the inner workings of a Parochial school. What I do know is that the rural (Class D Level) parochial schools are struggling for enrollment like everyone else is. We can see it by the sports co-op relationships. The Lindsay Holy Family co-op with Humphrey Public would be a good (and productive) example of this.
Not to put you on the spot, but you make a point of differentiating between Lincoln and Omaha parochial schools from the rest of the State. Do you believe that the Lincoln and Omaha parochial schools ARE picking and choosing what kids come to their school? Or could it be a situation in which the kids and families migrate that direction on their own?
By the way, I appreciate the mature exchange of information on this thread. Everyone is keeping this respectful and I think that is great. This is a sensitive subject for many and it is easy to get tipped over when it comes to this.